In my "Love Journal" I used to write to my future Mr. Someone and address him as if I was sitting there in front of him, holding his hands in mine, or me holding his face while calling him various "pet names". (Never quite understood "pet names", but I've found that I have succumbed to the art of the lovey nicknames. Ugh - ha ha ha ha ha) So, as to keep the tradition alive for my future Mr. Pili... here's what I want in a soul mate, a life mate, a life partner, my lifelong friend, my forever, my complimentary half (LOL), my everything.... my love.
My Dearest Mr. Pili ~
Hello my love. It'll be a beautiful day under snow, sunshine, hail or rain, when I get to be with you. I'm pretty sure you'd just want me to get to the point of what I want in someone, (the characteristics, the description, is he tall, short, dark skinned, white skinned, rich, etc...) and although I do have a long list of characteristics for you and for me - it's really pretty simple. But I'm sure I can make it complicated for you.
You see, I have this huge capacity to love, and have all this love inside of me, that I want to be able to whole heartedly give it to you, and have it reciprocated. I'd love for you to be goal oriented and driven, has things of the heart, goals, and future that are the same or similar (heading in the same direction) as me, and yet has hobbies and things that you like to do for YOU as well. I would love to know how I can support you in your goals and dreams, and how I can be there for you... whether as a silent support, a listening ear, a hand to wipe your tears, or arms to hold and love you through your days.
I don't want to just "live" with or without you. I want to grow with you. I want to build a life with you and your/our family. I want to be that old couple that still goes out on dates, walks hand in hand, and makes others blush. Because when were 90, and in wheelchairs, we'll be strolling down the lane with our great grandbabies pushing us while our fingers are interlinked and giggling while listening to them wish that when they are our age, they hope to have a love just like ours. And year after year, we find all the many reasons to fall in love with each other over and over again, and more and more each time.
I want to wake up every morning and go to sleep every night knowing that the person who is there next to me loves and trusts me enough to be "present" for me. Most importantly you will allow me to do the same for you.
I hope you can see me as a prize, someone worth wanting, loving, cherishing; because I see myself that way, and I see you as someone worth wanting, loving, cherishing, and working for to make you laugh and smile. I want you to be who you are and express the things that you need in all areas of your life, because I can't support you or love you the way you need to be supported and loved if I don't know.
Talk with me, spend time with me, tell me your dreams and fears.... let me love you through it.
I know I've stated a lot, but what it really comes down to is this; I want someone who will let me love him, support him, grow with him, and laugh with him... But above all, you'll be willing to do all these things for me.
I look forward to having you in my life.... one day.
So, until then.... my dearest Mr. Pili, whomever you are:
I Love You.